I have a degree… of course I’m smarter than a 5th Grader!


Within this week, I realised a 5th grader was smarter than me!

From mid January 2012, my theme for the year has been “break every chain”.  I really felt God was dealing with me to break strongholds in my life, the lives of our family and when we ministered, we had to “break every chain”. If that was not the outcome of our activities for 2012, it was almost as if we would miss God’s purpose for us. 

We recently had an entrepeneurs Day at school and we held a raffle. When we drew the names of the winner, a Grade 5 boy, (for the sake of his privacy) lets call him John, won the prize. John had never been friendly to me or my children and his mother had on various occasions outright ignored me, so when John won, my thought was “oh you”. Not as excited as I would have been if someone close to me.

The workers at the stalls told me later they were really excited John had won as he told them when he bought the ticket “his family have never won anything and he had decided he was going to break that curse today by winning this raffle. “

Rapped over the knuckles, I reflected back over the events.  John had used our raffle as his point of contact to break a stronghold over his family, exactly what God had told our family was our focus for 2012. So it just goes to show, that our human nature can still be selective about who we would like to be blessed and who we don’t think should be blessed!

So in this event, a 5th Grader tapped into the spirit realm to break bondages over his family when I was not even feeling spiritual!

When God says “break every chain”, you carry power to do so even when you are not focussed on the spiritual! Yep…I had to start repenting again!

It is the presence of Jesus in you to “break every chain”. You might think it a coincidence that this happened, but there were more than 10 raffles out there that day, and he chose ours!



Are you a No 1 Dad?

We all know the importance of the Father figure.

It is regularly preached off the pulpit:

“how you related to your earthly Father is how you relate to Father God

9 years ago my child’s play school sent letters home asking Dads to please spend time with their children as the children at school are saying “Dad leaves before I wake up and gets home after I am sleeping”

Logical deduction: they very seldom see their Dads.

Conclusion: God is an absent Father/God.

The devil has been successful in removing the Dads with the logical reasoning of “Dad has to bring the money in for us to live”. I recently asked 150 people of various ages and population for their favorite Father/Child memory. I was shocked !!! More than half of the ones that replied (and my response to that question was tremendous) told me that they have no memory of their Father! More than two-thirds of the replies said their Dads were drunks or their Dads were abusive towards them and they don’t have a happy memory. About 10 people responded with really pleasant memories!

                   Now we know the devil succeeded….

The next trend I’ve notices in the last 10 years plus is just as bad as the Father trend. For many years if the Father worked hard or was absent, at least the Mother was at home to love and accept the Children.

Now days Moms are working harder than Dads and by the time they get home, they are too tired and the children are “rejected” again for either a sleep, household chores such as cooking or washing or shopping, a TV program, a social engagement, gym or school sport!

But I am a working Mom! Different terminology, but same result as an Absent Dad!

Some questions to think about:

Has the devil managed to successfully remove the “Wall of protection” that the parents should create for the children?

Are our children been raised as I would classify as “orphaned or abandoned” as neither parent is there for their children?

Is it easier for us as parents to go to a full-time job than to raise our own children?

When the Bible says “train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it”, what is “THE WAY” that we as Christian parents are raising our children in? Neglect, abandonment, love deprived?

When do I actually love my children?

Children imitate their parents. Are they learning “people (the only “thing” that Jesus died for) are not important”?

Personally, I think it is easier going to work. Because when I see the challenges my children have had to face, I have never had the right answer to the situations. It has been hard work forcing myself to enquire from God how my child must handle their situations. It has meant I’ve had to spend time in the Word to find Biblical answers! Hard…because like every parent…I also want an easier life, with more luxuries and less responsibility.

I have had to learn to love my children when I don’t want to love! When I have felt so empty because of the blows life has dealt me!

I’ve had to find the strength to tell them “tomorrow is going to be ok” even when I did not know when or if the  “light at the end of the tunnel”  was going to appear.

I have had to learn what ever I say my children process and reproduce…life or death. Was I teaching them that Death has more power than LIFE?

It takes time, patience and deliberate effort to love my children. And sometimes it gets the better of me, but then I remember: Jesus gave us one commandment: “Love one another” and what better place to start than loving my own little people. The reward for me has been I’ve learnt more about God and me than what I could ever impart into them!

They are so rewarding to love!

Our children are amazing…let’s love them more!!!

or should our Father’s Day and Mother’s Day badges be reading:

absent Mom
Am I an absent Mom?

absent Fathers

Dear Lord, I am sorry

Well Lord, this year I heard Your instruction very clearly.
I looked around and in the natural, I did not see the importance or the need to spend the time in prayer that You asked me too. The people you told me to pray for all seemed to be doing great. Little did I know You were asking me to pray so You could do whatever You needed to do for them in the time ahead.
When their evil day came, I realised why You ask us to pray for others. It broke my heart to see so many go through such rough times, and to know I was also to blame.

We are not meant to fight battles on our own, our spiritual family are meant to pave the way in the spirit through prayer. I now know that.

Lord, now I pray for everybody that I either think of, or that I speak too. When I don’t know what to pray, I just ask You to bless them with Health, good relationships, prosperity and peace.

A hard way to learn the lesson “obedience is better than sacrifice”, but Lord, I think I’ve grasped it. There is no way to play catch up in the spirit. You either have to pray preventative, or afterwards, defensive. Lord, I never want to do defensive again. You look after your people, but You need the us to be obedient.

Lord, be close to all your family in this season. We do make some silly decisions, but You will never leave us. It is us that neglect You.

I do love You.

A wiser j9

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I’ve opened a new category…For The Brave of Heart only!

Please read this blog only if you are “FEELING BRAVE IN HEART”. It is a little STRONG in opinion and emotion.

With the death of Amy Winehouse making headlines, I did what I normally would when I’ve heard information of such a nature. I started praying for her family and friends.
Do I know them? No.
Your next (unspoken) question would probably be: “So why bother praying for someone’s family and friends that you don’t know?”

Amy Winehouse
Simple answer:
1. God loves them (saved or unsaved).
2. They’ve just lost someone they love and are brokenhearted. My Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted, and many people reach out to God for comfort on the death of a loved one. (another opportunity for people to find God, if someone is pushing through in prayer for them)
3. They are huge influences in their field. (This is the actual point I would like to expand on.)

I have kids in various age groups. And through the years they have listened to secular artists such as Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Katie Perry, Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus, Jonas Brothers, Justin Bieber, Ricky Martin, Michael Jackson are just a few of the names I’m able to recall at this point. My kids have raved about them, googled them, hung on every word they’ve said, looked what clothes they wore, who they were dating, bought magazines because they were on the cover, bought clothes designed by them, bought clothes because their faces were printed on the clothes etc. Picture of “influence” starting to look familiar?

As a Christian, a parent and a leader in the church, I had no clue how to deal with this infatuation my kids had with “STARS”. Hollywood seemed so much more glamorous when compared to Christianity. How does a Christian parent cope with such a challenge?

After praying for several days and asking God for wisdom on how do I teach my kids that people are not “bad”, but just “unsaved” and that what they doing is “not wrong”, they have just not had the “Godly input” that our children have been privileged to have had. I was trying to teach my children the principle of “not judging someone” before you’ve even started praying for them.

God took me to the following scripture:

1 Tim 2:1-3
1 Therefore I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men,
2 for kings and all who are in authority, that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and reverence.
3 For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior,

At that stage my answer was: “Yeah, I do pray for the government every now again. This does not solve my problem with my kids”

Until I took a closer look at v2: …and all who are in authority.
Authority means you have an ability to influence someone… good or bad.

God said: “Who is influencing your children the most: Me or the STAR they’ve obsessed with?”
The way to find out what’s in someone’s heart is to listen what comes out of their mouth! My kids were talking “stars, fame, money, clothes, Hollywood”
The main influencing factor in my children’s lives is the “STARS”!
The Stars where having more of an impact on my kids with their “flashy lifestyle” while not having the responsibility of discipline, their schooling, their manners around the dining room table, their manners towards people etc. All of the “unpopular stuff”, such as the list I’ve just rattled off, was left to the inadequate, boring, not-so-famous-parent!

Challenge: how do I change this!

After God showing me the real influence in my children’s live and bringing the scripture in line with the reality, I was able to tackle the problem from a Godly manner.

I approached the subject from a different angle. Every night when we prayed together, I would get my children to pray for the salvation of the person that “influenced” them at that stage. Very quickly, they started seeing through the façade of the fame and started lining up their behaviour with the scriptures and asking me if what that person was doing was right. And it became a powerful evangelical and equipping tool in my children’s lives.

The lesson they learnt:
1. Saved or unsaved: People are important to God.
2. Saved or unsaved: God loves people.
3. Saved or unsaved: Jesus died for people.
4. Saved or unsaved: I was to become more like Jesus and become the mediator between God and man by standing in the gap for the people. (Please refer to one of my previous posts: “I want to be more like Jesus”)
5. As a Christian, I can influence the destiny of someone’s life without them even knowing me or that I’m praying for them.

What sparked this post, was the Christians ungodly responses to Amy’s death on places such as Facebook, Twitter, sms’s etc (yeah, I am also subscribed to most of the social media networks). But sadly, this is not a once off trend I’m referring to here.

In 2011 alone, I have witnessed similar responses in the following situations:
1. When President Obama announced that Osama Bin Laden had been killed, I was horrified at these people who, on a daily basis profess they are “godly” (and even scarier thought: these people were trying to input into my life and tell me they have a message for the Body of Christ), come out with statements: “The demon is dead! Finally!” “The devil can have him” “let him rot in hell”.
2. When Japan was hit by numerous disasters earlier this year! “This happened because the Japanese do not serve God and He is judging them” What junk!

I’ve read what Christians have said of Amy Winehouse: “a tool used by the devil”, “a drug addict”, “wasted talent because the devil used her voice and God did not get the glory for the voice He gave her”.

Christians, dare we change our outlook of people and see these people as “unsaved children that My God loves and wants them in heaven”. Hell was created for the devil and his angels, not for people who the Christians have not wanted to pray for.

We all want to be leaders and Fathers in this wonderful Faith, let’s focus on what’s on God’s heart: PEOPLE and lets leave the judgement for Him to do on judgements day.

We all deep down have a desire to want to known as the person who impacts other peoples lives tremendously. Let’s learn to impact where it really makes a difference!
Heaven and hell are two total extremes. I reckon that is probably the biggest impact you could ever have on an individual’s life.
In prayer destinies are changed! This is probably the most important life changing impact you will ever have on an individual’s destiny, whilst obtaining God’s favour and been rewarded! What a great privilege to get approval from the one we love the most!

What a powerful testimony to your children that one of the “STARS/FAMOUS PEOPLE” got born again and is now ministering the Word of God. What would cement your child’s faith and trust in God more than seeing His power overcome the evil one.

Maybe the ending of Amy’s life would have been different if more parents with children following her music had adopted the response “Let’s pray for Amy’s salvation so she can glorify God with her beautiful voice”

Let’s trust that in her final minutes on earth, an obedient Christian somewhere was prompted to by the Holy Spirit and was praying for Amy’s salvation. Would it not be an awesome testimony to the power and grace of God’s salvation and forgiveness if Amy had cried out to God in her last moments and that she has been accepted and entered the Kingdom as a daughter of the Most High God!

Let’s pray for the “influences/authorities” that shape our lives, in doing so, we become destiny changers!


I have noticed over the last couple of years that I’ve loved starting thing, little less enthusiastic about working at them and then never actually finishing them.

After observing this in my life, I started seeing it in my entire family. I’d actually made a mental note that when holidays arrived, I was going to chat to my children (I always explain the life lesson to them first so that they know what I’m trying to teach them) why I was going to call them back to actually complete simple tasks. Such as making a sandwich, called back to pack the butter and jam away and wipe up all the crumbs, etc.

But upon noticing this trend in my life, I actually started looking at it from a spiritual point of view and realized we actually need to do it there as well.

I realized as people we carry way to much baggage with us when it is so much easier traveling light. I try to keep life simple by adopting the attitude if I have to do this, let me learn the Godly way to do it 1st time and after that I can practice walking in victory and getting things under my belt and moving on to greater things. But in doing this, I am churning up situations in my soul where “excess baggage” needs to be eliminated! Every time something does not “quite feel right” I give it a little more attention and am uncovering more areas than what I’d like to that need to be revisited.

I’ve listened to my speech and tried to understand my reasoning in figuring out what all these areas are.

Life happens to us all, deal with it and try not to drag it around with you. In some incidences, I find myself dealing with things over and over from even as far back as 20 years ago as others are often inclined to haul up the “forgiven and forgotten” part.

This morning I had the privilege of attending Mark Gingers “Laugh your Way to a Better Marriage”. He taught on the “reset” button. Great tool. I have a great marriage, but this morning the “reset” button was pushed in my heart, and we starting from a clean slate again.

Time to press the “reset” button in all areas of our lives. A little grace and a little forgiveness and hopefully lots of loss of memory only connected to the bad memories, will clean your heart and help you to “reset” your attitude and start on a clean slate in more areas than you can imagine.

Remember….we only received the full victory from Jesus after He uttered the words….”It is finished”.

Let’s bring closure to areas in our lives so we don’t have all these loose ends dangling. It frees up your spirit to worship God. It makes for a healthy heart, bones and body and for happier living.

It makes living in peace and joy a breeze.

To get to the top of the mountain, you only take that which you need. Anything else is excess baggage that leads you to wasting valuable energy.

God says “my yoke is easy and my burden light”. I’m learning to pack light!

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